So you are driving down the road and some idiot comes out of a side road and cuts you off. "What a jerk!" You lay on the horn and scream at him (or her). "Why that stupid person should not have a license. Blankety Blank, when I catch up with you I will give you a piece of my mind!"
Wait....do you know that person? Does that person know you? Were they sitting there waiting for you to come along just to tick you off? Of course not. The why are you taking this personally?
Whenever we are wronged, it is our human nature to take it personally. Maybe it is a defense mechanism in order to generate adrenaline to deal with a dangerous situation. I will leave that to the psychologists and the biophysicists. Right now I want to deal with modern driving.
Imagine 22 players on a football field - all doing what they want without any coordination. That is what driving today is. Now we have some rules to control this, and just by the fact you are one side of the road or another, controls some of your behavior (like being offense or defense to continue the football analogy). However; their is no coach to coordinate the drivers, no director to choreograph the play. Each driver gets to make their own decisions, again, albeit with some rules and regulations.
So if someone does something dumb, makes a mistake in judgement or skill, that only reflects on that person and has nothing to do with anyone else on the road!
The question is how do YOU react when you see or if you are affected by such an act?
First, as stupid as it may have been - it has nothing personal to do with you. You just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Second, we all make mistakes. If this was just a simple error in judgement, someone pulled out too soon, forgot to put their blinker on, etc., the questions is do you just say "Well, I do that sometimes, I will just ignore it." Most of the time that is the proper response.
Third - did we contribute to the problem? Are we traveling too fast for conditions or the speed limit? Are we driving in the rain without lights or maybe sitting in someone's blind spot? Are we examining our driving to help other people from making these mistakes?
Fourth - If it is really serious is the driver impaired - either by lack of sleep, drugs, alcohol or illness. Should we do something? The best thing is to get the license number and call the police. I have on occasion followed a driver, flashed lights, honked a horn, even pulled up next to someone to talk to them, trying to get their attention or wake them up. The first words out of my mouth are not "Hey stupid", but "Are you okay?" Concern keeps things from escalating and how I would want to be treated if I was suffering from one of the above issues.
So Road Rage needs to be fought, as common and normal an emotion as would be expected.
By realizing and expecting, people to make mistakes on the road, you will get to your destination faster and more relaxed.
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